Sunday, June 11, 2017

G-men and G-spots: The appeal of James Comey

So, Daily Beast reports a rash of tweets suggesting that people were discovering sexual feelings for James Comey during the airing of his recent testimony before the Senate.

At 6'8, Comey towers over most everyone in any room. And he's not exactly hard on the eyes. There's a dusty old saying, I can't recall it specifically, but it was something about politics or Washington being like Hollywood for unattractive people. Comey may not be fodder for a silver screen, but by DC standards, he's totes dreamy.

CNN Host Don Lemon, during his program, described Comey as having "an Aw-Shucks factor of 100." Whether it's real or illusory, Comey gives off cues in plenty of areas that people generally find attractive in a mate. Tall, masculine, well-dressed (I'm a sucker for a man in a suit)--but also his power and position. Sitting in a chair alone, staring down the Senate committee, fielding questions like they were nobody's business. Expressing at times vulnerability, forthrightness, integrity, and a willingness to put himself on the line to challenge arguably the most powerful man in the nation today--POTUS. It has all the making of larger-than-life, of "hero."

Who hasn't watched "Criminal Minds" and fantasized about any number of the characters--the intrigue, the mystique, the fearless drive to serve justice and others.

While I understand the awakening to some of his sexual appeal during the hearings. I was one of those who noticed it right off the bat. But that's my "type." Suit, clean-cut, close shave, corn-fed Midwest boys--all the trappings of the classic "male" are the things that hit my radar. Now, to be sure, Comey doesn't hail from the Midwest--but he manages, as Lemon noted, to still somehow pull off the "Aw Shucks" factor. And that's my Achilles' heal right there. All the bells and whistles.

I realize that sex appeal is extremely unique to people. I also realize politics generates strong feelings, and that this man is as much the target of some raging hate as this new found sex symbol status rising(?). But just saying, the Daily Beast article didn't surprise me at all.

For further reading/informal analysis on this topic:

Buzzfeed

USA Today

AOL News

Mashable

Your Tango

Saturday, September 10, 2016

Amusing Myself without HotRod

Fortunately it was an insanely busy week at work. Actually it was an insanely busy two weeks at work. This helped keep my mind off the horror that I was missing date nights for two weeks running. HotRod was pulled away and on the road and Miss Kitty was left all alone to amuse herself. So, I did what I always do. I pulled out the ipad mini camera app and had a good time.

My first night I just threw on a negligee and did a few shots. It's a cute little purple and black baby doll number, and as usual, if you want to see the full photo set you can visit the HotRod-MissKitty tumblr for more of Miss Kitty, and more than just Miss Kitty.


  
Most of the feed consisted of other sexually oriented material, since I didn't have the time to play, being so busy at work. But I did manage to get some after-shower shots the other night...
 

And then finally this morning, just some naked morning shots.
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I haven't heard back from HotRod. I'm guessing he hasn't even seen them. Poor thing, working so hard. But hopefully date nights can resume next week, and the photos can improve. He's much better at this than I am. ;)

Until then, keep bein' your sexy self!


-MK

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Sunday, September 4, 2016

Bitter-Sweet: Of Body Chains and Lingerie

Let's start with the sweet: The good news--no, really, the fantastic news--is that I got my new body chain in the mail. And I love it. I prefer silver over gold, because I have an olive skin tone, but love the chain regardless.

Huge snaps to "The Bodychain Store". I found them on Twitter under an account labeled "Find Your Jewelry". So I visited, and found loads of very cool stuff. This is one of those places I could go completely nuts shopping. But I managed to keep it to one body chain and a nose ring. I am still waiting for the nose ring to arrive, but the body chain is here:


As usual, you can find more graphic images posted at the HotRod-MissKitty tumblr site. But I'm excited. HotRod hasn't seen it yet, so *shhhhhh*. ;) It's fine if he visits here, I consider it a teaser while he's traveling.

And this brings me to the bitter: Always a let down when the HotRod is traveling. No date night this week. No date night next week. What's a girl to do? Well, if she's Miss Kitty, she amuses herself taking sexy selfies to post for HotRod to see while he's on the road. A bit of "inspiration" while he's on his own...and hopefully when he gets back. So, I'll probably be posting a lot of these on tumblr and sharing out the less graphic versions to the HotRod-MissKitty twitter. I've reserved a Youtube channel, but am still thinking about what kind of content to post there. Just not sure yet. But for now, here is a sampling of this morning's teasers for HotRod:

-MK

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Friday, August 26, 2016

24-Aug-2016 Session: Sex Position Reviews

OK, so a few new positions to review today.

On date night HotRod and Miss Kitty tried a few things Miss Kitty had seen while tumbling that looked like fun.

Reverse Cowgirl Variation
This was just a variation on leg positions within the Reverse Cowgirl genre. Miss Kitty may come back and add photos to illustrate, but for now, hopefully this makes it clear: Like Doggie Style, with HotRod lying on his back, legs straddled, and Miss Kitty sitting on his penis, leaning forward with hands and knees on the bed (doing all the work) rocking back and forth.
Pros: It provides a nice ass view, and is a lot less work that some other “woman on top” positions. Miss Kitty is very lazy in bed, and still didn’t get worn out too quickly. That’s saying something.
Cons: At first it seemed Miss Kitty was getting some nice clitoral stimulation against HotRod’s scrotum, but ultimately that didn’t prove very intense. Also, there really isn’t deep penetration on top without sitting up a bit straighter on top. Afterward, when asked how he liked it, HotRod summed it up with “That did nothing for me.”
Standing Backward Throat Fuck
Not sure what this position is actually called. But it involves Miss Kitty kneeling almost between HotRod’s legs, with her back to him, her head tilted backward with his penis in her mouth.
Pros: Looks really cool. If you’re just into throat fucking and love to try different variations—by all means, go for it. 
Cons: Awkward. Awkward. Awkward. Maybe if HotRod and Miss Kitty spent time working with it, it could fall into a rhythm? But seems unlikely. A lot of work for little pay off. Standard throat fuck positions, such as Miss Kitty kneeling facing HotRod’s penis, or Miss Kitty on her back with her head over the edge of the bed while HotRod stands facing her face and pounds away, both seem far more ergonomic in practice.
In the end, as always, give it a try if it sounds like something you’d be into. HotRod and Miss Kitty are all about comfort, though, so your goals may be different.

I’ll leave you with one of HotRod’s parting thoughts after date night: “Maybe the common sex positions are common for a reason?”

Maybe?

-MK

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Sunday, August 21, 2016

Relationships: Marriage and Gender Roles of the Dahomey Kingdom Tribes

As I mentioned in my post about the Nayar of India:
I was digging through some old papers and found a bit of research I’d done ages ago on the diversity of cultural understanding of marriage in the past and present. It made me curious to Google some of these societies and just compare it to what I’d written.
I think it's important to share things like this because European colonization of the globe lead to a lot of social/cultural homogenization that left modern folks confused about which aspects of human behavior are socially derived, and which biologically derived. This difference often doesn't matter, but when someone makes a presumption that life-time sexual exclusivity with a single monogamous partner is the normal/natural state of human beings--intending that this means we've evolved as monogamous beings--they're misunderstanding the history of how this was often forcibly spread about the globe, and the amazing variety of relationship and family types that thrived quite well in many other areas.
Particularly annoying is when people claim that monogamy in the nuclear family Western Civ sense is somehow better for bringing up children. In fact, there are many perfectly great working models for child rearing that have been utilized and continue to be utilized, around the world today. Our model is just one, and not even necessarily the most optimal.
It was actually just a small bit of my paper that led me to Google the information that follows. Here was all I had in my own research:
It is possible to find societies which recognize more than these three types of marriage [referring to prior discussion of man-woman monogamy, polygyny, and polyandry]. Among the Dahomey in Benin, West Africa, 13 types of marriage are recognized. The different unions are dependent upon the different economic relationships existing between the people involved.

Literally, that was it. I Googled "Dahomey" and here is what I came up with I felt was worth sharing:
Dahomey
...an African kingdom (located in the area of the present-day country of Benin) that existed from about 1600 until 1894, when the last king, Behanzin, was defeated by the French, and the country was annexed into the French colonial empire.
 Source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dahomey
Woman Marriage
There is a curious and ancient custom found among some of the Yoruba, Yagba, Akoko, Nupe, and Gana-Gana communities—that of a woman going through a regular form of matrimony with other women… a more striking example of this type of marriage is where a wealthy woman, who may or may not be normally married to a man, contracts a marriage with a young girl to whom she subsequently allows a cicisbeo to have access, the resultant children belonging to the female "husband". This is a common practice among the Yoruba, Nupe, Akoko, and Gana-Gana, and the female "husband" will even pay men to have connection with her young "wife". In some cases she exacts gifts of farm-service from cicisbei. All the ceremonial of marriage is observed in these marriages of women to women, and a bride-price is even paid to the young girl’s father. The usual rules of divorce apply. The legal "husband" can divorce her "wife" and recover her dowry, and if the young girl runs off with a man she can claim the resultant children as her own. The marriage of women to women is not regarded with disfavor, and the chiefs will even consent to their daughters being married in this way.
Citation: C.K. Meek, The Northern Tribes of Nigeria, vol. i, pp. 209-10.

As a side note, another interesting tradition in the Dahomey kingdom was that of the female warriors.
For the better part of 200 years, thousands of female soldiers fought and died to expand the borders of their West African kingdom. Even their conquerors, the French, acknowledged their "prodigious bravery."
Source: http://www.smithsonianmag.com/history/dahomeys-women-warriors-88286072/#Ea7qkW7tq84OBgGk.99

Another interesting aside is that the Smithsonian article goes on to offer scholarly speculation about how the women warriors came to be. One idea is that they derived from women elephant hunters in the region, known as the “gbeto.”

I hope that information such as this is useful in helping people to questioning their potential ethnocentricy, so that they can see many of the issues we consider controversial in our own culture—women it the military, same-sex marriage, marriage makeup and child custody rights and parental obligations—are handled very differently in other areas of the world where what we think of as new, innovative, progressive or even, for some people, not normal (or even potentially harmful) for human beings, is embraced in other cultures as mundane and ordinary, or handled in vastly different ways than ours. Western Civ is not the only model of social structure and civilization. There are many other models that work and have worked for who knows how long into the past—about which many people in our very “educated” society are shamefully ignorant.

There is nothing wrong with opening our minds and thinking outside the box with regard to human social connections, love, families, relationships, intimacy, and what is “normal” or “natural” for human beings. Far too many  people have opinions on these issues supported by extremely few data points. And fear of things that are not harmful, but merely different, can create situations where people are often unnecessarily oppressed or unjustifiably stigmatized.

I’d like to play a small part if helping people achieve happiness in their relationships. And part of that includes educating folks so that they aren’t unnecessarily concerned about things that really aren’t anything to be worried about.

Be happy. Be yourself. Don't let fear hold you back from living and allowing others to live.


-MK

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Friday, August 19, 2016

HotRod's Back in the Driver's Seat

Finally, finally, finally, HotRod is back in town. I was sooo excited for date night. And part way through he decided to grab my iPad mini and take a few shots of his own. He actually has a pretty nice digital camera, but we were at my place, and options were limited. But we managed to squeeze off a few fun shots. He's getting a little more into the tumblr feed and the blog. I'd love to see him get more into expressing himself here and trying his hand at some writing, because he's actually very sexually imaginative and creative--much more so than I am.

So, we started goofin' and snapped some shots. They won't win photography awards, but it's more about the fun. It's fun to take sexy photos, even if they're just snapshot quality. It's fun to share them out online to strangers for kicks. It makes date night a little more spicy. I mean, for example, I saw my favorite boutique has bunny tails on sale. For me this would be pure novelty. And HotRod would bust up laughing. But I know we'd do it, and it would be a blast. For me, laughing during sex (with, not at) is a good thing. HotRod makes me laugh. And I love that.

But here are some of the shots I can share--again, always try and keep the blog more of a PG-13 to R, not so much XXX. If you want to see it all, you'll have to visit the tumblr to view the feed. It's not just HotRod and Miss Kitty, though. I share out other blog posts from people on my feed who post anything and everything to do with sex and sexuality. If it's sexy, interesting, erotic, sensual, hot, fun, you name it. If it strikes me as sexy, I reblog it. Strangely, though I'm a cishet woman, I find that most of what I love to view and share is other women. It's not that I don't find the male physique attractive. I do. But I like to look at women--even myself. I remember once watching a video HotRod took of him masturbating me. We watched it together some time later, and I commented that it turned me on to see it. He said "but that's you." Yeah, that's me. And I know exactly how all of that feels, and remember it and thinking about it was very arousing. It doesn't make me want to have sex with those women. It makes me imagine it's me.

Anyway, here you go. I loe this first one, because HotRod is my favorite thing and a fantastic partner. This shoots off all the good chemistry in my head when I see him, because, to me, he's the sexiest man on the planet. I often tell him this, as well. "How did I ever get so lucky to wind up dating the sexiest man on the planet?" He doesn't believe me, but that's because he doesn't see what I see. Probably a lot of people won't see what I see. And that's fine. I can live with that.

So, the first one, just wow--for  me. And the next one, HotRod said his hand looks like "a big ol' bear paw" on my hands. I love it.






I hope to see a lot more HotRod images to come. But the rest are more what HotRod likes to see. He likes to see things like this...


And like this...


He's also got a thing for butts. I've never been one of those women with an ass that just won't quit. But HotRod makes me feel like he thinks my ass is just fine the way it is....



Except maybe on this image. Here we disagreed. He thought I'd want to throw it away. On the contrary, I think it looks juicy and curvy and, well, let's call it "robust." But I like it. Opinions may vary. And again, I can live with that.


But that's all I've got that's safe for the blog. Again, more is available if you want to come stop by the tumblr blog. We're also on twitter, but that's also just expressions of sex and sexuality in a slightly tamer format. Just depends on your preferences. More talk? More imagery? More quick thoughts?

Just remember to express your sexy self!

-MK

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Thursday, August 18, 2016

Relationships: The Nayar of India

I was digging through some old papers and found a bit of research I’d done ages ago on the diversity of cultural understanding of marriage in the past and present. It made me curious to Google some of these societies and just compare it to what I’d written.

I think it's important to share things like this because European colonization of the globe lead to a lot of social/cultural homogenization that left modern folks confused about which aspects of human behavior are socially derived, and which biologically derived. This difference often doesn't matter, but when someone makes a presumption that life-time sexual exclusivity with a single monogamous partner is the normal/natural state of human beings--intending that this means we've evolved as monogamous beings--they're misunderstanding the history of how this was often forcibly spread about the globe, and the amazing variety of relationship and family types that thrived quite well in many other areas.

Particularly annoying is when people claim that monogamy in the nuclear family Western Civ sense is somehow better for bringing up children. In fact, there are many perfectly great working models for child rearing that have been utilized and continue to be utilized, around the world today. Our model is just one, and not even necessarily the most optimal.

Cultures like the Nayar challenge these assumptions and stereotypes in a way that can encourage other options which may work better for people, depending upon their situations. And with that, I give you a very small nugget for consideration.

From my old research, a section about the Nāyar/Nair of India:
Here, a young girl should go through a four-day ceremony (which marks her status as a married adult) that connects her to a man, her “ritual husband.” A necklace with a pendant is placed on her, showing that she is, in the Nayar sense of the word, “married.” But she’s not going to settle down with her “husband” to start a family. Instead, she now can, and is expected to, have many lovers, or “visiting husbands,” come to see her in the “great house” (the place where her mother’s family looks after her). It is uncommon for a visiting husband to sleep with her more than one night in a row.
As long as the girl has been ritually married, her children are considered legitimate; if she gives birth before the ceremony, she is punished. So, the ritual husband has nothing to do with her family unit, but he is absolutely necessary to legitimizing her children.
Citation: Edgar Gregersen, Sexual Practices, The Story of Human Sexuality (New York: Franklin Watts, 1983), p.130

So, I went online and sought out further information on the Nayar, and here are some other sources and their descriptions:
Marriage and Family
Marriage customs among the Nayars have evoked much discussion and controversy in India among both jurists and social scientists. There was considerable subregional variation as well as variation by subcaste and family prestige. Details presented here refer to south Malabar and the former Cochin State. There were two kinds of marriage: talikettu kalyanam (tali [necklet]-tying ceremony); andsambandham (the customary nuptials of a man and woman). The tali-tying ceremony had to be held before puberty and often the ceremony was held for several girls at the same time to save on expenses. Depending on the group the tali could be tied by a member of a linked lineage (often two Nayar Lineages that frequently intermarried were linked to one another and called enangar lineages), by a member of a higher subcaste of Nayars, by one of the matrilineal Ambilavasi (temple servant) castes, or by a member of a royal lineage. By the mid-1950s, it became common for some girls to have the tali tied by their mothers. It is still controversial as to whether this ceremony was ever a formal marriage or if originally it was simply an age-grade ceremony, since it often included a large number of girls ranging in age from 6 months to 12 or 14 years. Women did observe formal mourning practices for the men who tied their talis, and in some instances—for example, if the girl was close to puberty—it was possible that the Marriage might be consummated during this ceremonial period. How often this occurred is unknown. By contrast, sambandan involved a man having a "visiting husband" relationship with a woman. While such relationships were considered to be marriages by the woman's family, especially when they occurred with males of higher subcastes or castes, the males tended to view the relationships as concubinage. Traditionally Nayar women were allowed to have more than one "visiting husband" either simultaneously or serially.
Unlike most Hindus, Nāyars traditionally were matrilineal. Their family unit, the members of which owned property jointly, included brothers and sisters, the latter’s children, and their daughters’ children. The oldest man was legal head of the group. Rules of marriage and residence varied somewhat between kingdoms.
Between the 16th and 18th centuries, Nāyars in the central kingdoms of Calicut, Walluvanad, Palghat, and Cochin had highly unusual marriage customs that have been much studied. Before puberty a girl ritually married a Nāyar or a Nambūdiri Brahman. The husband could visit her (but was not obliged to); in some cases ritual divorce immediately followed the ceremony. After puberty the girl or woman could receive a number of visiting husbands of her own or a higher caste. Nāyar men might visit as many women of appropriate rank as they chose. Women were maintained by their matrilineal groups, and fathers had no rights or obligations in regard to their children.

- MK

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